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  1. Business Week: Goldman Sach's unofficial guide to being a man!
    Friday, September 13, 2013
  2. Living Positively
    Thursday, September 12, 2013
  3. Are you Productive?
    Thursday, July 25, 2013
  4. 9 Tips for Becoming a Better Negotiator
    Tuesday, March 05, 2013
  5. The key to success, any success, is your MINDSET or ATTITUDE
    Tuesday, March 05, 2013
  6. Monday 11-28-11
    Monday, November 28, 2011

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Business Week: Goldman Sach's unofficial guide to being a man!

Today, I was forwarded an article from Business Week with a list of what it takes to be a man in this modern society. I like this topic and this topic stirs up great conversations, interpretations, and of course controversy.

Although I it is comical and that I can relate to and do agree with most of this list, it is flawed in many ways (remember, I too came from the investment banking world). I will not go into all the flaws but for now, we will say that this list at first needs to clarify that this is for the young (20's-30's, maybe 40's), single, eligible bachelor living in a primary urban environment such as NYC or SF.

Here's the list unedited (except for a typo I found which I have designated with (sic)). There are a few I really like and a few that should not be on this list or should be re-worded at the least. Take it for what it is worth:

  • Stop talking about where you went to college.
  • Always carry cash.  Keep some in your front pocket.
  • Rebel from business casual. Burn your khakis and wear a suit or jeans.
  • It's okay to trade the possibility of your 80s and 90s for more guaranteed fun in your 20s and 30s.

  • The best public restrooms are in hotels: The St. Regis in New York, Claridge's in London, The Fullerton in Singapore, to name a few.
  • Never stay out after midnight three nights in a row … unless something really good comes up on the third night.

  • You will regret your tattoos.
  • Never date an ex of your friend.
  • Join Twitter; become your own curator of information.
  • If riding the bus doesn't incentivize you to improve your station in life, nothing will.

  • Time is too short to do your own laundry.

  • When the bartender asks, you should already know what you want to drink.
  • If you perspire, wear a damn undershirt.
  • You don't have to like baseball, but you should understand the concept of what a pitcher's ERA means.  Approach life similarly.

  • When people don't invite you to a party, you really shouldn't go.
And sometimes even when you are invited, you shouldn't go.

  • People are tired of you being the funny, drunk guy.

  • When in doubt, always kiss the girl.

  • Tip more than you should.
  • You probably use your cell phone too often and at the wrong moments.

  • Buy expensive sunglasses.  Superficial? Yes, but so are the women judging you. And it tells these women you appreciate nice things and are responsible enough not to lose them.

  • If you want a nice umbrella, bring a sh*tty one to church.
  • Do 50 push-ups, sit-ups, and dips before you shower each morning.

  • Eat brunch with friends at least every other weekend. Leave Rusty and Junior at home.

  • Be a regular at more than one bar.  
  • Act like you've been there before.  It doesn't matter if it's in the end zone at the Super Bowl or on a private plane.
  • A glass of wine or two with lunch will not ruin your day.

  • It's better if old men cut your hair.  Ask for Sammy at the Mandarin Oriental Barbershop in Hong Kong.  He can share his experiences of the Japanese occupation, or just give you a copy of Playboy.
  • Learn how to fly-fish.  

  • No selfies. Aspire to experience photo-worthy moments in the company of a beautiful woman.
  • Own a handcrafted shotgun.  It's a beautiful thing.
  • There's always another level. Just be content knowing that you are still better off than most who have ever lived.

  • You can get away with a lot more if you're the one buying the drinks.
  • Ask for a salad instead of fries.

  • Don't split a check.
  • Pretty women who are unaccompanied want you to talk to them.

  • Cobblers will save your shoes. So will shoe trees.
  • When a bartender buys you a round, tip double.

  • The cliché is that having money is about not wasting time. But in reality, money is about facilitating spontaneity.

  • Be spontaneous.
  • Find a Times New Roman in the streets and a Wingdings in the sheets. She exists.
  • Piercings are liabilities in fights.

  • Do not use an electric razor.

  • Desserts are for women. Order one and pretend you don't mind that she's eating yours.

  • Buy a tuxedo before you are thirty. Stay that size.

  • One girlfriend at a time is probably enough.

  • (sic) #StopItWithTheHastags
  • Your ties should be rolled and placed in a sectioned tie drawer.

  • Throw parties.
But have someone else clean up the next day.
  • You may only request one song from the DJ.

  • Measure yourself only against your previous self.
  • Take more pictures.  With a camera.

  • Place-dropping is worse than name-dropping.

  • When you admire the work of artists or writers, tell them.
And spend money to acquire their work.

  • Your clothes do not match. They go together.

  • Yes, of course you have to buy her dinner.

  • Staying angry is a waste of energy.

  • Revenge can be a good way of getting over anger.

  • If she expects the person you are 20% of the time, 100% of the time, then she doesn't want you.
  • Always bring a bottle of something to the party.

  • Avoid that "last" whiskey. You've probably had enough.

  • Don't use the word "closure" or ever expect it in real life. There may still be a mortally wounded Russian mobster roaming the woods of south Jersey, but we'll never know.

  • If you are wittier than you are handsome, avoid loud clubs.

  • Drink outdoors.
And during the day.
And sometimes by yourself.
  • Date women outside your social set. You'll be surprised.

  • If it's got velvet ropes and lines, walk away unless you know someone.

  • You cannot have a love affair with whiskey because whiskey will never love you back.

  • Feigning unpretentiousness is worse than being pretentious. Cut it out with the vintage Polo and that '83 Wagoneer in Nantucket. 

  • The New Yorker is not high-brow. Neither is The Economist.

  • If you believe in evolution, you should know something about how it works.
  • No-one cares if you are offended, so stop it.

  • Never take an ex back. She tried to do better and is settling with you.

  • Eating out alone can be magnificent. Find a place where you can sit at the bar.
  • Read more. It allows you to borrow someone else's brain, and will make you more interesting at a dinner party – provided that you don't initiate conversation with, "So, who are you reading …"

  • Ignore the boos. They usually come from the cheap seats.
  • Hookers aren't cool, and remember, the free ones are a lot more expensive.
  • Don't ever say, "it is what it is."
  • Start a wine collection for your kids when they are born.  Add a few cases every year without telling them.  It'll make a phenomenal gift in twenty years.

  • Don't gamble if losing $100 is going to piss you off.
  • Remember, "rules are for the obedience of fools and the guidance of wise men."



Living Positively

I read an article today on being positive. 

The article cited a study that heart disease patients with a positive attitude were 42% less likely to die over a five-year period than those with a negative attitude.

What's more, patients with a positive attitude were about twice as likely to exercise. In fact, a further analysis revealed that those with a positive attitude lived longer because they exercised.

So the question here is: Does a positive attitude give heart disease patients the motivation they need to exercise, or does exercise put you in a better mood?

There are studies to provide answers for both questions. 

Despite all the studies, I will tell you to live a positive life, that means to have a positive attitude. Shift the paradigm and see things in positively. Half glass full!

My response has no real study or support, but rather just what is common sense. 

What does having a positive attitude do for you? 

Well first of all, you feel better, you are happier, people around you like you, they gravitate towards you, you perform better at work, you are more confident, you overcome troubles, you are in control of your destiny, you smile more, you are energized, your life is great! 

It obviously doesn't stop there. Positive Attitude = Positive Life = Happiness.

And for me, part of success in life is finding that Happiness!

Are you positive today?


Are you Productive?

Are You

At the beginning of each day we
ask ourselves the same question – "How can I be more productive today?"
Truthfully, if you could figure out the exact recipe, you'd probably be a
billionaire; but keep reading and maybe you will get a few good ideas.

The first step to being more
productive is to become more organized. An easy way to accomplish this is to
create simple yet organized daily "to-do" lists each morning. Be sure to take
your time with this and write all work related tasks as well as any personal tasks
that need to completed that day. Writing your to-do list (vs. typing) is
preferred because it helps to imbed the items into your sub-conscious. Your
sub-conscious then assists you in making sure these tasks get completed!

After you have completed your daily
to-do list, it's a good idea to highlight the priority tasks and also identify
those things that you can delegate, thus freeing up more time for accomplishing
the more important money making actions.

Spending too much time on
unimportant or tasks that can be delegated is one of the biggest time wasters
around. And don't forget that priority tasks typically take up more time and
schedule your time accordingly.

Once you begin to tackle your
priority tasks and you are halfway through, take a few minutes to evaluate if
you are on track and headed in the right direction. That way you won't waste
valuable time. Re-assessing helps to determine if any alterations are needed
before you get too far along and discover you have gotten off track. This also
helps to assure that you do it right the first time and can then be finished.

If you discover that you are
procrastinating and unable to meet your deadlines on a regular basis, try
finding someone to be accountable to, or at the very least, set a kitchen timer
for 60-minutes and get as much done as you possibly can; then repeat.

Batch like activities such as
email, returning phone calls, and paperwork. This helps you to streamline these
activities and complete them faster with fewer interruptions.

Finally, kicking your
perfectionist habits allows you to focus only on those issues that benefit from
extreme attention to detail.

Determine what you're able to
change and avoid being frustrated over the things you can't.

Good luck…



9 Tips for Becoming a Better Negotiator

We negotiate all of the time
and yet when it comes to negotiating a Salary or any kind of Contract,
negotiating suddenly becomes a challenge.

The following 9 tips should

1. Before you begin, have a
plan 'B'

2. Think "win-win," not just "win"

3. Know what's really important to you and what's not

4. Listen more, talk less

5. Ask questions, lots of questions

6. Avoid negotiating just for the sake of a win

7. Analyze the offer before reacting

8. Prioritize what's important

9. Be informed and know what the issues are and be solution oriented

The key to success, any success, is your MINDSET or ATTITUDE

Friends, I want to share with you the following for your success!

Mindset Issue #1 – You think it takes luck to create success

Do you look around you and see someone successful and say – Everything they touch turns to gold – they are so lucky? Do you ask yourself why you don’t catch a badly needed break?

Well, what you fail to realize is that luck is not the driving force behind success. Rather it is hard work, good decision-making, planning, and discipline.

Lucky people have created their luck, make no mistake about it.

Create your own luck

Mindset Issue #2 – You don’t trust your gut feelings

There are times when you just know things. You don’t know how or why, but you do. You might even feel it.

Call it intuition, a gut feeling, whatever you’d like; just pay attention and listen to it. Listen to what it’s saying and learn to trust your gut feeling

Super successful people have mastered this and aren’t afraid to listen. They’re believers.

Gut feelings often call upon all of your past learning stored deep down in your subconscious and help you to draw conclusions based on experiences.

Start trusting your intuition

Mindset Issue #3 – You lack strategic focus

Many of you are actually trying to do too many things at once and not having success. Why? Because it’s impossible!

You’re spreading yourself too thin. Try building a solid foundation with one, two, or even three things.

A lot of people build big things, but it doesn’t necessarily lead to more money.

Start by being great with a few things

Mindset Issue #4 -- You believe everything you hear and read

Don’t you know that today many stories you read are just an opinion? Know what is based on facts and what represents an opinion.

Be capable of forming your own opinion. There are so many uncertainties today that you need to be mindful about what you do with the information you’re taking in.

Know what’s real and what’s not

Mindset Issue #5 – You don’t value your time

So many of you spend a lot of time with prospects that will never become a customer or client. Maybe it’s because it makes you feel productive or important, who knows. For example, if you do a good job qualifying and somebody doesn’t pass the muster test, move on. Don’t tell yourself it might work out – it won’t.

Also, NEVER work without a written agreement – more often than not you’ll get burned – I see this over and over.

This is where knowing your value pays off. You only have so many hours – 1360 I believe – if you’re wasting them in one place, you lose your opportunities in another place.

And finally, know your hourly rate.

Start valuing your time beginning today


Monday 11-28-11

Testing this out today. Finally adding some text to this site. Its been awhile but alright since I'm not really committed to it. Just more of a "I better get the domain before someone else does" attitude. So I did and now the question lurks....what to do with it? Well, for now the first thought to mind is since it is my namesake, then why not just journal as pleased. The best format for this? a blog of course... at least what's what I am thinking. So here it the entry one of ...1 million? Realistically, I'd be excited if I get past 4 entries for 2012. Hope y'all had a nice Thanksgiving. As for me, sailing was the only way to celebrate summer like weather in November!